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Anyone who has dated enough or been in a relationship, would at some time or another been faced with the questions... "so what are we?" or “where are we going with this?" Being all different, we would naturally all respond differently. Some would welcome this question while others would feel the effects of a post-brain aneurysm coming on. Whatever side effects you experience, the question is usually responded by a monochromatic and dull,  "let's see what happens" . What this response implies and reflects, is uncertainty, fear and doubt. Nothing more, nothing less. The uncertainty reflects from social pressure and over-emphasis as to the degree of expectation, intention and commitment that each relationship status seems to demand. There is always going to be a degree of uncertainty that gets attached when it comes to positioning a relationship. And this why we as people need to label. The sole purpose of labelling a relationship is to dete

"To love, honour and cherish, forever"... Wait a second, how long a “forever” are we talking here? If you've barely scratched the surface on what the world has to offer in terms of sex, love and rock 'n roll, well, you might want to postpone those little "I do's" a little longer, say 5 to 10 years maybe? Or until you have lived a little. Those little "I do's" just might not make the cut if you haven't experienced what is out there. Regrets, doubts and afterthoughts and are going to make that "forever-and-ever" a whole lot shorter, or worse, peppering your marriage with "If only". Since the world has gotten faster and smaller, we are being constantly thrown back into the pool of society, one that has become more sexually aware over the years. Every day we are exposed to new things, shinier and better things... and temptations. We also get divided as to what you have, what you think you have, what you want and

Gone are the days when decades ago couples had sex in sad, sad silence. Pulling out that dusty old gramophone seemed like too much hard work, especially when they were about to get it on. But now, with playlists available at a click of a button, my mistake, I meant - on voice command, there is just no excuse to not have a sexy playlist instantly available. Sadly, it turns out that many couples still do not share this radical idea of listening to music while having sex. Apparently, it's all too weird. Luckily, science came to our rescue. Thanks to the study that was conducted by the McGill University, the results proved that these couples are probably just having shitty sex and should reassess their beliefs. The study found that listening to music prompted the release of dopamine. You know that feel-good chemical which also gets released with good food, good sleep and... good S-E-X! Double woohoo hoo, right? So listening to the right music at the right time only enhance

Meeting a random person online comes with the same risks as meeting someone face-to-face. It just seems that Online dating gets a lot more media attention when things go bad. Nevertheless, face-to-face, online or meeting through church fete, there is a protocol that you can follow to keep yourself safe. Taking precautions is not a gender orientated protocol, it does not make a man a " pussy " or a woman a " paranoid prude" , it just makes them smart. Guys, ever heard of "The Black Widow"? When dopamine and hormones are in control, safety usually takes second place, and this is when trouble can start, so to help you along here are a few precautionary measures. #1Let friends know where you are Got a close friend, trusted family member, colleague or roommate? Well, ping them over your location on Whatsapp. If you can, include names, numbers or any other specifics about your date. Sounds like too much work, but this can help eliminate unnec

Showing off your  "Mr Big's Super Ribbed Chocolate Flava's"  condom wrapper isn't necessarily an indication as to how sophisticated or adventurous you are in bed, no. Turns out, there's a bit more science involved when it comes to choosing the right condom variety. Because we are not all the same, condom manufacturers have created a plethora of choices when it comes to selecting that special johnny to enhance our sexual pleasure. To help you make the right choices, we have another friendly-go-to-guide: Thins and Ultra-Thins Most men will opt for Thin or Ultra-Thin condoms for that close, natural smoothness and feel. This sounds very similar to a shaving commercial. But it's true, a close feel means a smoother, more natural sensation during that moment of pleasure. It can be intimidating to some people as these varieties do look flimsy. But you can relax, they undergo rigorous testing standards to ensure that you're not at risk of

Ever tried fitting King size sheets on a Double bed? Or vice versa? Well, that's pretty much the challenge most men face when it comes to wearing condoms. Not only can an ill fitted condom render itself useless through slippage and rupture, but it can be uncomfortable for men and cause unnecessary irritations for his female counterpart. As it just so happens, The Kinsey Institution in Indiana even conducted research in 2010 on what effects a badly fitted condom has. Turns out common sense was right. The incorrect condom can cause a plethora of complications ranging from chaffing and irritation to losing erections and even missing out on that hard-earned climax - Terrible! Do we really have to mention at this point that slippage and a broken condoms can bring on STD's and cause pregnancies? Good! So size does matter? Whether you have a bean sprout or carry the prize courgette, gentlemen, you will need to get the perfect fit! The idea of catching some exciting tropic