Giving him the perfect "hummer"? Ladies, this could intimidate him

To become an exceptional pilot, one needs practice. Sure you can spend hours and hours watching videos of take-offs and landings and hit a high score on that flight-simulator. But this will only give you an overall idea how flying works. Until you get to spend enough valuable time in that cockpit, you're not going to be master the art of flying... at all.

And sex is no exception, you need to put into practice what you learn, particularly in the instance of expressing "talents" in the form of fellatio... (hehe... cockpit)

The Hummer, the BJ, the Huey, giving head, whatever word you choose, ladies, if you are in the beginning stages of a relationship and you're exceptionally good at your craft, well you may want to tone it down a little as to not intimidate your man.

Apparently, as it turns out, men enjoy a really good hummer, however, it comes at a price.

As the word intimidation implies, it's the double-edged sword moment if she's "that talented" at using her mouth for something other than blowing... kisses.

Make no mistake, he sure would love the attention and appreciates her abilities to go down, but one thing he cannot shrug off from the back of his mind is... "how many guys did she have to blow to get this good?"

How do we know this? The word in the boy's locker room is that it's "a win-lose situation if she's incredible at giving head".

He's thinking that there is no way she perfected the art of syphoning by practising solely on rudely-shaped fruit, nor did she rely on direct research from PornHub without having at least several hundred cock-a-doodle-dos in her mouth. It's at that point, he may feel intimidated.

Although he may not say it, believe us, he is thinking it.

Guys have an over-exaggerated and over-active imagination when it comes to thinking about their girl with other men. Tell him you're out with friends and he's already thinking you're the lead starlet in a bukkake scene with 200 "man-friends" standing around you. The same will apply when he thinks about the 972 lovers you had before him who helped you to perfect your gifts. It's just the way men think.

Guys are sensitive creatures when it comes to performance in the boudoir. He will always wonder and hope he is every bit better than her previous lovers (yes, all 972 of them), and by outdoing your performance on him in the fellatio department, can or could, drop his self-esteem. And when that happens, it could set off a chain reaction of new complications. We are putting emphasis on the word could here!

The penis is the most complicated and fragile organ in a man's body. It shares similar virtues as the brain where they both think, operate and function, but there are moments where conflict arises between the two.

Sometimes they get along, and sometimes it's a tug-of-war when it comes to agreeing with each other, specifically when it's sexually based. Wrong or right, there can only be one winner.

For instance, his Johnson does not do well with stress, anxiety, fear, intimidation and uncertainty. The effects spill into performance issues and manifest into the emotional realms. And when that happens Mr Penis will eventually give feedback to Mr Brain, "look here, I tried, it's not working, she's gotta go". This is where Mr Brain starts his process to spontaneously come up with elaborate ways to evacuate.

Don't believe this? Well, how does he perform in bed when he's had a stressful time at work? Mr P. Nile doesn't react very well, does he?

It's the same effect that can induce affairs, promote cheating or point towards breaking up. A known fact, that if he cannot be satisfied in one place, he will have to seek it elsewhere, remember, the brain and penis are always at war.

And you can rest assured, it's not you, it's him, but it could be because of you. Not in every instance, of course not, but in this instance, it's the intimidation which may add to pressures, which is why all of a sudden you'll hear "listen, we gotta talk". Of course, it may not be because you gave him exceptionally good head, there could be other underlying factors, but each little nuance tends to lead to a greater picture.

Back to that perfect hummer, you do so well.

Sure you have the ability to suck a golf ball through a hose pipe, we salute you, but to prevent him from thinking "WTF!?" you may have to alter your approach just a little.

So what to do with your remarkable snorkelling skills?

Simple, don't outdo yourself in the first few meals, but rather slowly wean onto "improving" your abilities by spreading it over a few courses.

That way he will feel that he's probably the reason behind it all. He will take great pleasure in knowing that his girl is improving her techniques just for him. Guaranteed, he is bound to reciprocate the favour in one form or another, as he won't want to be outshone by your exponential and tangible improvements in performance.

Yes, we all know it's generalising, and it's a mouthful (hehe), and a lot to swallow (oops), and not all men will share the same sentiments. But there is certainly some truth to it. It may seem trivial, but the male mind is incredibly fragile at times when it comes to this sort of thing.

Don't believe me? Fine, have a look at his reactions when you tell him how many guys you've slept with.

Proof enough on how delicate he can be?

Yes, yes it's totally unfair that it's ok for him to sleep with 50+ women and if a woman does it, she's a slut. But it's just the way it is until society changes its collective thought on this matter. In the meantime, just focus on yourself.

Is it their fault for being this sensitive and prone to being intimidated? Sadly, no. It could be hard-wired or it could come from years of being exposed to poor locker-room talk which leads to the paradigms of social pressures that men often face.

Is it ego? Hell yes, and it costs you nothing to boost it just a little. And why not? After all, men are expected to understand how women think, well, it would be fair for women to meet them halfway and try to understand how men think too. 

Happy whistling.

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